We might temporarily impress people by being fake, but we can permanently impact people by being real. ~ Dave Willis
We try so hard. All we see when we look around is how good everyone else is. How much more successful they are. How much more together they seem to have their life. We want to be better! We want it to just be easier financially, socially, skillfully, etc. Whatever you wish you was better at, that’s what you see.
We try so hard all the time. All the while only becoming more frustrated with ourselves. Our frustration just leads to more unhappiness, causing us to be even more discontent with ourselves. It’s a never ending cycle. Discontentment equals discouragement.
“The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are…” ~ Goldie Hawn
I have walked in those shoes so many times. I still find myself putting these shoes on again no matter how many times I think I have overcome. Recently though, my view on how to overcome discontentment has had some new light shown on it.
There I was, walking in those discontent shoes again. So unhappy with myself. So busy comparing myself to others, just making more misery upon myself. I was tired of it. Tired of being unhappy. Tired of comparing. Tired of wishing I was better. I was trying to be better but it wasn’t working. I was looking at how everyone else was doing things and trying their methods that are not really designed for me personally. What I was doing was failing. I was trying to make myself someone that I was not.
“If you cannot hear the sound of the genuine in you, you will all your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls.” ~ Howard Thurman
One day in prayer, I was spilling my guts out to the Lord, releasing all my self-frustrations, and complaining about myself. Asking Him to make me better. All at once it hit me. “I created you to be Dalena.”
“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” Psalm 139:14
It hit me like a ton of bricks! God created me to be ME. I don’t need to be looking to others and comparing myself to them. Yes, I can take advice from others but don’t try to be them. The only formula to bettering myself is to be me!
Fall in love with the process of becoming the very best version of yourself.
Once you can come to the realization that God created you to specifically be YOU, there will be no self satisfaction. Yes, I’m sure there will always be room for self improvement but remember your best qualities. Qualities that God designed for you. No one else.
We are all originals.
Embrace what makes you Unique.
We judge ourselves. Why? We only make ourselves miserable when we do. I know at least I do! My prayer lately has been geared more towards, God help me fulfill Your plan for my life. Strengthen the good qualities you have given me. Help me be who You created me to be… Dalena.
God created you to be (insert your name here).
We shouldn’t be all about what we are not, but instead what we ARE.
Once you become happy with yourself, confidence comes.
The only way you will get better at being you is to be YOU.
So be YOU. Embrace everything that is you. Do what works for you. Don’t worry about others. You’re the only one who has the formula for you!